Wow, this is the third post I have started today. I am on some kind of a roll here. This one is a bit of a rant though started because of something I saw on Tumblr this morning ... A rant or even a PSA if you will. And I did agree with it 110% but I just had to add my own caveat to it. You can read the post here:
http://geekiekittie.tumblr.com/post/74825493258/thelureoffantasies-ms-woodsworld-i-hate-to
The post was about random men sending sexually explicit messages to female bloggers. BAD! And I agree ... There is something truly awful about some no-name scumbag wanted to tie you up & rape you til you pass out (yes I made that one up).
It's gross. It's creepy. And yes it can even be scary.
I have been really lucky as I have not every really been targeted like that. But I do have "fun" making these types of creeps feel really really "small" ... I told one guy on fetlife that he should be the poster child for condoms ... hmm, he didn't really talk to me after that ;)
But no that is not the caveat I added.
I added that it's not just women that are "targeted" by sexual "predictors" quite a few of the Doms I follow also get very highly inappropriate invitations as well. I am very happy to report that they, for the most part, equally disgusted, by this blatant misconduct, as their female counterparts.
So, anyway, all that got me thinking about all the double standards out there on tumblr, in BDSM, & hells in society in general.
Double standards are a HUGE pet peeve with me.
The worst for me, well there are 2 actually ...
1. "Cock shots"
2. Girl on girl "action"
My dashboard is FULL of women ... Naked, posing, plastic (so hate fake boobs!) or selfies. Probably every 3rd photo is some naked chick.
Yippee! *rolls eyes*
yeah yeah ... NEXT!
I do try to counter by posting alot of males ... posing, naked, selfies ... hopefully none are plastic though! o.O
But the peeve here is that a lot women on tumblr actually get offended by "cock shots" .. Really?!?!?!?
You have just posted half a dozen photos of naked women & the sight of a penis offends you?
Oh what?
You are NOT a lesbian?
You have hundreds of naked barbies on you wall ... but I have a guy with his dick hanging out, on my wall & YOU'RE grossed out???
Riiiiiight .....
There is tumblrette, who has become completely addicted to putting up selfies on tumblr .. *yawns*
She also asks for submissions (people sending pictures to her inbox & she will publish them to her wall)
"but please no cock shots! I like the peni but cock shots are just so icky"
I don't get it.
She is "brave" enough to put up every possible type of selfie - including deep throating a dildo in several homemade videos ...
But when a guy (for whatever reason) wants to free willy for all of tumblrvse to see .. It's not only icky but creepy as well?!?!? ...
Nope no double standard there!
I actually had a conversation with one of my followers (doesn't that sound so egotistical? - MY followers). He had sent me a message asking if he should put up a selfie ... It was something he really wanted to do but was really shy & scared to do it. (Yup, that's really creepy alright.)
He didn't want to send it to anybody he just wanted to post a selfie to his own "blog".
*shrug* (this is not something that I have ever encountered before)
I encouraged him to do it because it was something he really wanted to do.
And then he asked if I would go & get them out.
I did & I liked & re blogged (not something I normally do - re blog any selfies).
I even left a couple of comments. I am even happy to report that 2 of the photos did alright making the rounds on tumblr a bit.
So is this creepy?!?!?
It made him happy that he got up the nerve to do it & helped to boost his confidence a bit.
And the fact that several people liked his photos.
Wow .. what a creep! And he is still a hell of a nice guy .. even with his dick sticking out!
I just want to note that I do not like sellfies ... of any kind (tumblr .. facebook .. where ever).
99.999% of the time I think of them as self-indulgent ego stokers .. from both sexes.
But whatever .. to each their own but if Barbie can do in & is HIGHLY ENCOURAGED to do so then you better bet that I will be there rooting on Ken. (of course if the guy IS a creep .. no way but it's usually not to difficult to vet those losers out)
A lot of the time I believe they are nothing but self-indulgent ego strokers ... Both sexes. But to each their own ... If I get a submission .. If it is a naked woman ... It goes in the trash with a message to the originator saying I am not in to women but thank you. For a guy ... I will usually look to see if he is a follower & what his archive is like. If he is not a follower .. I delete end of story. I will publish the submission if it is "tasteful". I do try to not encourage submissions at all.
Okay what was my other DS again .. oh yes ... girl on girl action (not to be confused with lesbians &/or bisexuals) ....
It just really irks me to no end how accepted, almost expected in all aspects of life .. that every woman should want to participate!!!
FormerD is big on this .. back in the day (and even now) it was big
"you WILL be made to be with another woman!"
*raises eyebrow* Really?
The very thought of it is a major turn off for me. I get that some women like it or have their own fantasies but .. that ain't me. I have never been one for "trending".
I was talking to my friend Geeky one day & he was telling me how the "search" was going for a female switch for a threesome with him & his wife. *sighs*
So I asked one of my favourite questions ..
"What about a threesome with another guy?"
His response:
"I know it's a double standard but FUCK NO"
Some guys think it's great for their girlfriends/wives/subs/slaves/whatevers to "fuck around" as long as it's with another woman but no fucking guys can touch her!
Really?
And I will point blank ask a guy the obvious
"why?"
"cuz 2 women are hot .. doing a guy would be gross & no guy gets to touch whats mine"
Really? It's so cliche.
Yeah ... I LOVE this double standard soooo much that I have now even incorporated it into my "hard limits" list ... seriously.
And we can thank FormerD for that.
It is now stipulated that if you REALLY REALLY want to have a threesome with me & another girl then first you have to have a threesome with me, you & another guy ... I don't care how THAT scenario works itself out (although I absolutely LOVE gay porn .. just sayin') but it will happen before I ALLOW myself to be with another woman.
And FormerD's response when I told him:
"you WILL be made to be with another man AND another woman!"
*groans* (oh well at least HE doesn't care about double standards!)
Yeah, my biggest peeve is all the girl on girl stuff. I'm straight, and my sexual orientation is just as genetic and unchangeable as the media keeps reminding us a gay person's sexual orientation is. If someone said that same thing to a gay woman, you WILL be made to be with a man, it would end up on the news as some kind of hate crime. Female homosexual activity might be hot to a guy, for some bizarre reason I'll never understand (especially since the girls are doing the men's least favorite activities like cunnilingus), but it's not hot to me. I have to turn away because it upsets my stomach, plus it annoys me to no end because of the double standard, And also, yes, it is rather odd that women are encouraged to post naked pictures, but men aren't. I know it's politically incorrect these days not to find everything equally beautiful, but to put it mildly, I don't find vaginas attractive. There, I said it. I will probably be chased off the internet. lol.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comments. I do appreciate where you are coming from. But please do not confuse the sexual acts with sexuality. Homosexuality is not a sex act it is what a person is. There is a big difference.
ReplyDeleteA lot of people do engage in sexual acts with same sex partners. I know alit if "actors" in gay porn are in fact straight men ... They just get paid more for gay porn then they do then straight porn.
I do not believe that engaging in any sexual acts with the same sex does not make you gay ... Bisexual at best but not gay. There are plenty of men out there that LOVE getting pegged (fucked up the ass with a strap in dildo) by women. Does this make them gay? No .. It does not.
I just wanted to point on my opinion about sexuality.
I don't care what people do ... To each their own ... As long as it's legal, safe & consensual.
My whole point if this post IS that there should be no double standard at all ... You want to put your Vajayjay out there for the world to see fine ... Have at it ... Fill your boots but do NOT bitch & moan & squeal cuz some some "hairy bag" has sprung forth & is free for all to see. Because he has just has much right to be there as any woman. And it's the same with sex ... Have at 'er but don't moan in disgust when I want to watch a chick suck your dick while some guy fucks you up the ass!! ... That is after all the beauty of this lifestyle. ....
And please, tcklish, do not think I am putting you down, because that is not my intent. I value your opinion as much as anybody else's ... It's just very different from mine (and that's ok too)
... Just sayin
At the very beginning I said, female homosexual activity. I didn't say the people were gay. I have no idea what their sexual preference is. They're being paid very well to do what they do, which is something I wish the men watching would remember. Just because every girl in porn will lick another woman's genitals, that doesn't mean every real woman in the real world is bisexual. Most of us aren't. But men are being taught to believe we are, and that causes this bizarre pressuring of straight women to do each other, which is rather disturbing. I feel sorry for young heterosexual women today who think they have to act against their sexual orientation in order to entertain their boyfriends.
DeleteI don't care what people do either. But there are some things that make my stomach feel icky so I don't want to watch. I don't want to watch women lick each other's genitals. For that matter, I don't particularly enjoy watching men lick women's genitals either. Hee.
There IT is!!! You nailed it! That's my whole point ... "I feel sorry for young heterosexual women out there today ...." That's it exactly ... It's the "expectation " ... This is normal but that is yucky ... Do this but not that!
DeleteOh no, you're defining where your sexual orientation lies. You have limits. You must not be a real sub. :-P hahaha <3 j/k
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why sexual orientation is not an accepted by a lot of male Doms. And frankly, if they can't accept how you react to people romantically and sexually, how the hell are you to trust that they will accept all of your other boundaries?? You can't.
Honestly, moments like this make me realize how truly blessed I am. Yes, the ground is still a little shaky, but never has one of them even hinted that I shouldn't be with any other guy.
I've had past men try to redefine my lines of love and sexuality. They didn't last very long, lol. So I completely agree that if a Dom is making a sub think about redefining sexual boundaries, then the Dom should do the same!
As for pictures of genitalia of any kind, I don't really like them. They look weird to me. Unless I'm sexually attracted to someone (as in, I know them and like their mind), I don't need to see it. And if I do see it, I'd rather it be in person than get a picture, LOL
Yes, I've been told by comments on my blog that I'm a bad sub because I'm annoyed by the double-standard. Master wants me to participate in lesbian activity to entertain him, when of course he would be horrified if I ever even dreamed up the idea of him doing another man. Which I wouldn't, since I have no interest in watching male gay activity and it doesn't turn me on. But seriously, I'm with a man who won't kiss me after a blowjob, but he wants me to lick a woman's vagina. Is he stark raving mad? Yup. Brainwashed by porn mad.
DeleteI don't like genitalia pictures either. I find vaginas to be unattractive, and the penis, well, I'm with you on that, I have to be attracted to the man or I don't want to see it.
Again I didn't really mean to encompass orientation in this rant ... But I can see now why it's there. I do completely agree with you jas. It actually made me think of a scenario you definately don't hear about very often ... But it is no different me thinks:
DeleteGay Dom says to Gay sub:
"You WILL be made to sleep with a woman!l
Hmm, I would how the masses would react to that?
As for FormerD & his DEMAND. I am not holding my breath for that scenario to play out any time soon (think NEVER). The way he says it, is his little way if making HIMSELF feel more Domly. He is all about DEMAND & telling me how I will be objectified, used & yes even humiliated ... The reality *shakes head slowly & winks*
But it is his fantasy & I do respect that ... If the the ever DID come to pass ... I would think long & hard before I DECIDE whether to help him make that fantasy come true.
And as for posing people men or women. It does nothing for me either ... I am just on tumblr for the dirty sex pictures ;)
... The selfies & portraits are just unfortunate hazards! ;)