This post is not about me!
This post is about some stupid slapper here that has, ummm, immersed herself in the local community.
Literally wiggling her ass at anybody who looks at her twice .. hells maybe even once. I don't even know her but somehow she keeps popping up in my life.
Hey you want to literally put yourself out there ... your poly or a free agent ... GREAT! Have fun.
But for Gods sake .. remember .. you get what you ask for. Don't expect every Dom Dick & Hairy to want to become your one true Dom. Sure they are going to use you ... that's what you are offering them.
But don't go crying OH WOE IS ME, to anybody who will listen, when these many "Doms" don't show you the respect you think you deserve or give you what you want.
Cry wolf and never learn from it PEOPLE will stop caring.
Grow up and maybe learn to respect yourself! (BEFORE you get yourself in REAL trouble)
end of rant
Shouldn't that be OH WHORE IS ME? Oh wait, that is a little disrespectful of me, sorry. I like your advice though- learn to respect yourself. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteIt's not so much what she does ... do what you want just don't be stupid about it!!! And don't play the victim, and take responsiblity for your own actions!!!
ReplyDeleteI agree, do what you want and just be smart about it. It's why I said sorry, was disrespectful with my smart ass mouth. I have a lot of "woe is me" "victims" in my everyday life. It's so exhausting.
DeleteHmmmm .. you are correct hs! I never thought about it but it's true in vanilla life as wel1!!! I work with alot of "VICTIMS" and it IS exhausting. Maybe that's why I take such exception to this person!?!?! .. interesting! :D
DeleteYou could be taking such exception because of the vanilla 'victims'. If you think about it, in the vanilla world a lot of daily life decisions, behaviors, etc really has no handbook, and many of those in role model public positions always blame elsewhere and never take responsibility. Now, I am new to D/s, but before I entered it with Sir, I did a lot of research. Though each relationship is different, one thing I read over and over was be respectful of other submissives and Doms, also respect yourself, and realize that if you do not follow an xyz protocol your safety could be in danger because too many professed doms out there that are frauds. My point, there is a handbook about right, wrong, and safety. That person is very lucky to have you pointing out why woe is me is happening. Hopefully said person will learn self respect.
DeleteShe will not learn because she does not think she is doing anything wrong .. she does what she wants no matter what. No I am afraid the only way she is going to learn is to crash & burn. She is new to this lifestyle as well .. she entered it at the same time as me, and has taken a very different path than I. I am like you .. I have research and I have learned .. I know what I want kind of sub I want to be, the kind of Dom I want & the type of relationship I want. I do believe she is in that "sub frenzy" phase I have read about. *shrug*
DeleteI think "sub frenzy" should be re-labeled "50 Shades of Fantasy". I read that book. Loved certain aspects, but knew it was not portraying the lifestyle to the fullest. Ironically, if it wasn't for that book, I would never have pegged Sir as a Dom. Our relationship started vanilla, and the first time together He had way too many controlling aspects that I actually called him my Christian Grey. Every flirting conversation & sexual encounter just confirmed my suspicion, and I so wanted to discuss testing the waters. Took me 6 mos to finally get him to open the door I had been knocking on, and admit He was acquainted with this lifestyle. I can see how many fall for that fairytale. I have a feeling more predators have come out of the woodwork professing to be a true dom in order to abuse. Which is why it's so important to research and understand. I hope when she crashes it isn't permanent.
DeleteYeah .. I actually loved that series (yes I know I know) .. I just thought of it more of a dirty love story than representation of the lifestlyle - okay AFTER I started researching though. My former Dom made it soooo enticing and it was really easy for me to be "convinced". We really clicked so well *sighs*. I guess not everybody is so lucky. There are alot of predators out there, that's for sure .. due to the books but more so the internet of course .. such easy access to the weak minded. I don't wish anything bad to happen to this girl but I really do believe she is on a crash course and she refuses to see it.
ReplyDeleteWell, tell us how you really feel, :p
ReplyDeleteTotally agree. Quit playing the victim!!!
Thanks LMSS .. I will!!! ;)
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